All family members are interconnected, so the relationship of parents cannot but affect children. The behavior of children and their emotional problems as an indicator show that there are some problems in the family. If parents notice problems in the behavior of the child, they need to look for the answer first of all in their relationship. Most often, the root of the problem lies there.
Why are children the first to react to ongoing negative changes in the family?? First, children are very sensitive. During this period, they absorb all the information from the outside, which helps their development. This information shapes them and their view of the world. And children receive the most information from their loved ones, because they spend more time with them.
When there is tension in the family between the parent, if there are quarrels and irritation with each other, adults will not be able to constantly suppress these negative emotions and hide from the child. In this state, they will not be able to give the child enough attention and love. What will the child react to?.
What might this reaction be?
– This feeling of anxiety, fear and low self-esteem.
– The child may be aggressive, rebellious, stubborn and hysterical. By such behavior, he unconsciously tries to attract the attention of adults.
– The consequence may be a serious illness such as allergies, gastrointestinal disease, asthma, or other chronic illnesses. Increasingly, the cause of enuresis in children is precisely the tense relationship between parents, and as a result of this violation in the central nervous system . When the child’s psyche is not able to cope with everything that happens, it goes to the body.
Parents need to take this seriously and never sort things out in front of the child. After all, the task of parents is also not to injure the child emotionally and keep him from such stresses. If quarrels occur in front of children, it most traumatizes their psyche. If adults have accumulated dissatisfaction with each other, you do not need to transfer your anger to the child.
If there are unresolved problems and conflicts in the family, it is better to deal with it and settle everything. It will benefit all family members. If you do not deal with them, but continue to turn a blind eye to them, not only you, but also the child will suffer. The family should be a place where children can feel protected and loved. Adults need it too.
If mom and dad are happy, so will the children. A good relationship between parents and peace at home will be the best basis for the healthy development of your children.